Wednesday, May 21, 2008

Six Ways to Win Friends

I am currently reading a book by Dale Carnegie “How to win friends & influence people”. It was hubby’s book. He has always intrigued me in first place, by how he likes to buy and read all those motivational and self-appreciation books. I found them boring in the past. But not anymore.

The first book he introduced me is “Rich Kid, Smart Kid”. I believe you know who the author of the book is, right? In the past I would grab any best selling romance novels on the book shelves but now, I would browse around those business and motivational books to check out the latest best seller books in the market. I still read romance novels but I have developed reading interest on fiction, thriller and motivational books as well. Reading is a never ending process, I learnt a lot by reading and it also help to keep my brain from turning “rusty”. *laugh*

Back to Dale Carnegie’s book, I would like to share with you its tips on how to make others like you. All summarized in six points as follow. Hope you learn something from it, because I did:

Become genuinely interested in other people
If you want others to like you, if you want to develop a real friendship, if you want to help others at the same time as you help yourself, always interested in what other people do, think and say. You must be sincere.

Smile
Smile is a messenger of your goodwill. Be generous and genuine when you smile. When you meet people, a good first impression is important. Smile is a strong first impression

Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language
Name is owned by the person that we talking to, and nobody else. If you remember that person’s name, it makes that person feels important

Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
Communication is a two-way road. Remember that the people you are talking to are a hundred times more interested in themselves and their wants and problems than they are in you and your problems. So, to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener too. To be interesting, be interested. Ask questions that the other persons will enjoy answering.

Talk in terms of the other person’s interest
Know what the other party’s interest, may it be sports, career, family issues and food. Talk on what interested them.

Make the other people feel important – and do it sincerely
Talk to people about themselves and they will listen for hours

1 comment:

Nick Phillips said...

That's some pretty good tips there, Rose :) But smiling is always the best way to win friends ...